Betrayed by Your Biology
The Hidden Fear Controlling Women’s Lives
COMING SOON – NOVEMBER 2025
I didn’t set out to write this book — just like I didn’t set out to face the fear that inspired it.
When I saw those two pink lines appear, my body froze. It wasn’t joy or surprise. It was terror — deep, physical, and consuming. A few weeks later, when I miscarried, I felt grief… and then, to my shame, relief. That relief haunted me.
What kind of woman feels relief after losing a baby?
That question became the doorway into everything that followed — the years of silence, searching, and eventually, healing.
In that silence I discovered something few people talk about: a fear of pregnancy so intense it takes over the body. I learned that what we call tokophobia barely scratches the surface.
I wrote this book because too many women are living this story in secret — fearing their own biology, shamed into silence, believing they’re broken or crazy.
You’re not crazy.
Your body is trying to tell you something.
And when you learn to listen, that’s where healing begins.
The Hidden Fear Controlling Women’s Lives
What if the fear shaping your life isn’t in your head — it’s in your body?
For generations, women have been taught to silence their fear of pregnancy, birth, and their own biology. But beneath that silence lies a hidden epidemic: Reproductive Anxiety Disorder — a body-based fear that shapes decisions, relationships, careers, and lives.
In Betrayed by Your Biology, Alexia Leachman — creator of the Fearless Birthing movement and the Head Trash Clearance Method — exposes the unseen emotional inheritance passed through women’s bodies for decades. From the trauma of birth to the secrecy of abortion, from fear-based choices to the quiet collapse of creativity, she traces how fear becomes embedded in the female experience — and how it can finally be cleared.
Drawing on lived experience, client stories, and over a decade of work helping women heal tokophobia and reproductive trauma, Alexia offers a radical new framework for understanding women’s mental health — and a way out.
This is not a book about motherhood. It’s about the woman behind it — the one who’s spent a lifetime at war with her own body, and is ready to call a truce.
Courageous, compassionate, and unapologetically human, Betrayed by Your Biology is both a manifesto and a map — for every woman who has ever felt afraid of her own power, and for every professional who wants to understand what that fear really means.
Because your body was never the enemy.
And fear was never the truth.
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