If you’re struggling with fear of pregnancy and birth, you might be wondering:
“Should I wait until I’m pregnant to deal with this?”
“Will I feel differently once I actually conceive?”
“Can I just push this aside for now and hope I’ll be able to cope later?”
The truth? Waiting will only make things harder.
If pregnancy feels terrifying now, it’s not just going to disappear once you see a positive test. In fact, for most women with tokophobia (the extreme fear of pregnancy and birth), the fear only intensifies.
Let’s break down why — and what you can do about it.
Why Waiting Makes Tokophobia Worse
1. Pregnancy Triggers a Flood of Hormones (and Anxiety)
Even if you want to be pregnant, the reality of actually being pregnant can shock your nervous system — especially if you haven’t done any emotional prep work.
🚨 The moment you find out, your brain goes into overdrive:
- “What have I done?”
- “I can’t do this.”
- “What if I panic? What if I regret this?”
🚨 Your body is changing—and you can’t stop it.
- For women who fear losing control, pregnancy can feel terrifying because it’s one of the most uncontrollable experiences a person can have.
🚨 Anxiety skyrockets because you’re now on a timeline.
- You don’t have forever to “figure it out.” The baby is coming, whether you feel ready or not.
For many women, this leads to increased panic attacks, avoidance, or even thoughts of terminating a pregnancy they actually wanted.
2. Pregnancy Itself Doesn’t Fix Fear — It Exposes It
One of the biggest myths is that once you’re pregnant, things will magically feel different.
The reality? Pregnancy amplifies whatever fears are already there.
If you’re already feeling:
- Terrified of the idea of birth
- Panicked about medical settings, hospitals, or interventions
- Consumed by worst-case scenarios
Then pregnancy won’t resolve those feelings — it will heighten them.
3. Fear Can Affect Your Pregnancy Experience (and Your Baby)
When your body is in a constant state of fear, it releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline — which can impact not only your well-being but also your baby’s development.
Women with unhealed tokophobia are more likely to:
⚠️ Experience high anxiety throughout pregnancy
⚠️ Struggle with bonding due to fear and detachment
⚠️ Have higher rates of birth trauma and postpartum anxiety
And here’s the thing: You deserve to enjoy pregnancy. You deserve to feel safe in your body.
But that starts with clearing the fear first.
So, When Should You Start Healing?
The best time to heal tokophobia is BEFORE you get pregnant.
Why? Because:
✔️ You can work through the fear without the pressure of a pregnancy timeline.
✔️ You can make informed decisions without panic clouding your judgment.
✔️ You’ll feel stronger, calmer, and more in control when the time comes.
But even if you’re already pregnant, it’s never too late to start healing.
The sooner you begin, the better you’ll feel.
Where to Start: Your Next Steps
If you’re ready to start working through your fears — whether you’re pregnant yet or not — here’s where to begin:
1️⃣ Understand Your Fear Triggers
👉 Take the Tokophobia Assessment (to uncover your personal fear patterns)
👉 Join the Free Tokophobia Masterclass (to learn what works & what doesn’t)
2️⃣ Start Clearing Your Fear—Today
👉 Get the Fear Clearance Starter Pack (a DIY healing kit with guided fear-clearance tracks)
3️⃣ Get Personalised Support
👉 Work with Me in the Tokophobia Support Program (a structured 5-week healing plan)
👉 Go Deeper with Fearful to Fearless (for full, 1:1 healing support)
You don’t have to wait until pregnancy forces you to face your fears.
You don’t have to suffer through anxiety and panic alone.
You can take control of this NOW.
And when the time comes? You’ll be ready.