Are you struggling with fear or anxiety around pregnancy or birth?

The most common thing women say to me about their trauma is not “that was terrible.” It is “but it wasn’t that bad, was it?” Hidden trauma rarely announces itself. It hides behind that exact question, behind a shrug, behind years of getting on with things while something underneath quietly waits to be seen.

Some of the women I work with spent years insisting their birth “wasn’t that bad,” because the baby was healthy and nothing went medically catastrophic. And yet they could not talk about it without their whole body tensing. That gap, between what the world counts as trauma and what the body knows, is where so…

In over a decade of this work, the wounds I have seen women carry most quietly are reproductive ones. Not because they are rare, but because we have never given women permission, or language, to speak about them. So much of what looked like anxiety, or “just not coping,” turned out to be unnamed trauma,…